Amy Martinell, Sioux Falls, SD

Warm-up Question

Do you forgive easily or do you tend to hold a grudge?

Forgiveness:  Hard Healing Work

For months Margot Van Sluytman traded emails with Glen Flett.  It was not your ordinary email exchange.  In 1978 when Margot was only 16, Flett  killed her father while he attempted to rob the convivence store at which her father worked.  After being released from prison, Flett attended an event aiming at bringing victims and perpetrators together where he received help  connecting with Margot and they begin to email.

According to Margot, “They were emails filled with humanity. His words helped to heal me, but after a while the words weren’t enough and I knew I needed to look into his eyes. So, three months later I met the man who killed my father.”  When they first met, they both sobbed and hugged each other.  Margot shared that after her father died a part of her seemed to go blank, but after this meeting she felt the color begin to return to her life.

This was a long process to get to, at first Margot could not even contemplate forgiveness, it made her too angry.  Later as she began to work through her anger with poetry, she became more open to the concept, and soon as she began to consider forgiveness, she noticed a change in her whole body, that she felt more complete and more at peace.  Forgiveness was a healing process.  Before Van Sluytman begin the path to forgiveness she felt a void full of nothingness, now  that the void has begun to be filled by the friendship she has with the man who killed her father.  This friendship has helped put meaning back into her life.

Margot Van Sluytman’s story is one of the many stories collected by The Forgiveness Project.  The Forgiveness Project is an organization that collects stories of forgiveness to share the power of reconciliation, help build understanding, and empower people to tell their stories and reconcile with the pain of their past. (theforgivenessproject.com)

Discussion Questions

• Margot Van Sluytman was open to forming a relationship with the man who killed her father. In her situation, do you think you would be willing to do so?  Why or why not?
• Margot helped work through her pain and anger by writing poetry. What activities help you when you feel hurt and angry?
• When have been times you have had a hard time asking for forgiveness or accepting others’ apologies?

Fourteenth Sunday After Pentecost

Ezekiel 33:7-11

Romans 13:8-14

Matthew 18:15-20

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Gospel Reflection

Jesus talks about a truth we all know well.  We know what it feels like to be hurt by others and we know what it feels like to hurt others.  It happens all too often.

We can guess the people who first read Matthew’s gospel were dealing with this problem as well.  “What do we do in our church when people hurt each other?”  In our reading, we have a set of instructions for dealing with conflict.  The focus is on rebuilding relationships, not on handing out punishments.  It is about restoring the person to the community, not about making sure everyone gets what they deserve.

And we restore relationships with face to face talks.  This is hard.  Today it sounds so much easier to send an email or text than to have to tell someone to their face that they have hurt us, but it is when we sit down in person that we are best able to see the other person’s point of view and become open to forgiveness and reconciliation.

Forgiveness is hard work; sometime we need to include others people, sometimes we may need more time before we are ready to forgive, and sometimes the person may not be open to hearing how they hurt us or what they have done wrong.  Forgiveness is hard work, but we can trust that our Lord is with us through the process we can reach out with love and forgiveness.

Discussion Questions

• When you are upset with someone do you prefer to go and talk with them face to face or would you rather do it over text or email? Why might it be important to have these conversations in person?
• When someone close to you has hurt you is it hard for you to trust them again and welcome them back into your community?
• Have you ever been part of a group or team where members were not getting along? How did this affect everyone else?

Activity Suggestions

• Visit The Forgiveness Project website and read another story and discuss together the power of forgiveness.
• Brainstorm different constructive ways to deal with hurt and anger (poetry, exercise, music, etc.). Make a list of all the different options and give students time to explore one or two of the options.

Closing Prayer

Gracious God, you call us to love one another, but it is hard to be in community together.  Forgive the pain and hurt we cause our neighbors and help us to reach out with love and forgiveness when others hurt us.

Brian Hiortdahl, Overland Park, KS

 Warm-up Question

What does success look like?

Success or Bust

Darko Milicic was the number two overall selection in the 2003 NBA Draft, chosen behind only LeBron James, and ahead of several other notable stars.  His professional basketball career is widely considered such a disastrous disappointment that his name has become almost synonymous with the term “bust”:  a colossal failure.  Yet in a lengthy article, Sam Borden offers ten reasons why Darko should be considered a success.  Despite his failure in the NBA, Milicic has become more emotionally mature, financially secure, and at a peace with himself and his history.  He is able to acknowledge past mistakes without being defeated by them.

Discussion Questions

• Would you consider Darko Milicic a failure or a success?  Why?
• Have you ever felt pressure to continue something you really wanted to quit?
• What expectations from others impact you?  In what ways are these expectations positive or negative; how do they help or hurt you?

Thirteenth Sunday after Pentecost

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Gospel Reflection

Peter has just correctly identified Jesus as “the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”  This title comes with enormous expectations.  Jesus then “sternly ordered the disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Messiah” and, as this week’s reading opens, “Jesus began to show his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and undergo great suffering… and be killed, and on the third day be raised.”  The Messiah was expected to restore power and glory to Israel; being crucified (by Rome) is the complete and exact opposite of this.  Peter tries to talk Jesus out of this nonsense and gets harshly scolded for it.  God has other things in mind.

As Jesus elaborates, he says something very difficult that resonates with Darko’s story:  “For those who want to save their life will lose it, and those lose their life for my sake will find it.  For what will it profit them if they gain the whole world but forfeit their life?”  The word “life” can also be translated “soul”—one’s truest self. Expectations and appearances can cloud our understanding of who we really are, and what God wants for us and from us.  Getting there is often a difficult climb beginning with loss that feels like death, “like Old Darko died.”

In our confirmation class, the pastor wrote on the board about twenty responses to the question:  “What do you and your parents hope for in your life?”  The list included answers like happiness, financial security, a home, family, good health and reputation—the things usually associated with success.  Then the pastor said, “Let’s evaluate Jesus on the cross.”  Every last item was eliminated; Jesus was a “failure” on every count.  A total messianic bust.

Things are not always as they appear, the pastor explained.  Maybe the antisocial nerd everyone considers a loser is a future CEO.  Maybe the beautiful and popular student everyone admires is a lonely self-injurer.  Success can be an impossible burden and failure freedom.  The cross reminds us that God has other things in mind than we do, and the truth is usually deeper than the surface suggests.

Discussion Questions

•  How does Darko’s story illustrate what Jesus is trying to teach his disciples?  Where do you detect God’s grace at work in his life?
• Who judges you, and how?  Whom do you judge?  How might you reconsider your evaluation of them?
• When have you experienced a loss that you later saw was the beginning of a blessing?
• What in you, or in your church, needs to die in order for you to live?

Activity Suggestions

• In your group, make your own list of hopes that you and your parents have for your life.  Do any of these describe Jesus on the cross?  Do these hopes enliven or threaten the soul—are they human things or divine things?
• Identify a “bust” you know—someone (or a population) considered a failure or a disappointment.  Pray for them, write them an encouraging letter, and find a way to appreciate or serve them.
• Visit a monastery and share a prayer liturgy with the community there.  Stay and talk afterward.  What new perspectives do you get?

Closing Prayer

Set our minds, Lord Jesus, on divine things.  Show us the truth about ourselves and others and you.  Empower us to shoulder our callings, and give us the courage to follow you through times of confusion and pain and loss to the joy of new life.  Amen

No, no, it’s not that bad.  Faith Lens is just on summer hiatus.  It will be back August 29.

Sylvia Alloway, Granada Hills, CA

Warm-up Question

Suppose that you were living in shelter after fleeing from a terrible war. You meet a person your own age from the enemy country. What would you say? How would you act?

Blowing Down Barriers

They come from around the world to share their sorrow and fear from a dreadful experience: a loved one has been killed in a terror attack.  They are the children and siblings of those who died on 9/11, in the Middle East conflict, in the train bombing in Madrid, from attacks in Norway, Indonesia, Northern Ireland. There are 55 of them.

Their destination is a summer camp held at Brynn Mawr College in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Its purpose is to foster understanding and, by sharing their common experience, keep fear and hatred from crippling the next generation. Here Jews play basketball with Palestinians; Muslims and Christians hike together; a teen from Northern Ireland learns to make a bracelet, taught by a teen from the South. Though their countries are enemies, they share the same devastating loss, a loss only they truly understand. Here is a place where they can belong.

Groups of campers participate in “Dignity Sessions.” Here individuals may talk respectfully about differences and share their fears. An Arab girl asks an American boy if he thinks all Muslims are terrorists and is surprised when he answers, “No.” Someone shares how disturbed he gets when he sees terror attacks on the news and everyone understands.

The cooperation and sympathy among these young people results in greater empathy for each and other and, most important, a determination to fight the hatred that inspires acts of terrorism.

Counselor Monica Meehan McNamara sums up the encounters this way: “Getting to know one another breaks down the cycle of hatred and violence. [These experiences] are powerful antidotes.”

Discussion Questions

• Why do you think people commit acts of terrorism?
• In what way might campers be changed by the camp experience? How might they behave differently when they get home?
• What can young people do to fight fear and hatred in the world?

Day of Pentecost

Acts 2:1-21

1 Corinthians 12:3b-13

John 20:19-23

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Gospel Reflection

If you are selected to read the scripture for Pentecost Sunday, you should probably practice beforehand. Verses 9-11 name the countries from which many of the people in Jerusalem had come and they are hard to pronounce. Why are the names of these countries included? What do they have to do with the coming of the Holy Spirit?

The people gathered were Jews who truly loved God. They had been scattered all over the world and had now come to Jerusalem to celebrate the Feast of Weeks, a harvest celebration, also known as Pentecost. With so many nationalities and languages there were certainly rivalries and distrust among them. But here they were, drawn by the noise of the wind and the sudden burst of speech from Jesus’ followers in the middle of the city.

Each disciple spoke in a different language, even though they were all Galileans. All the people gathered there heard the mighty works of God told in their own tongues. Many call this a reversal of the Tower of Babel. There the languages were confused and the people were driven apart. Here the languages are united, as are the people who speak them. The Holy Spirit, symbolized by wind and fire, had worked a miracle! Jesus’ prayer for the unity of his chosen ones (see John 17:21) was answered. Here is the spiritual place where all those who love God belong.

Like the young people who were united by their suffering, Christians are united by their joy – our salvation through Christ and our unity in the Spirit.

So, the Holy Spirit came and everybody lived happily ever after? Well – no. There are divisions in the church, sometimes sharp ones. Christians are still flawed human beings. Perfect unity will not be ours until Christ returns.

Meanwhile, we can take a lesson from the campers in Philadelphia. We can talk to each other, share our experiences, and correct each other’s misconceptions. And when we do that, we are setting an example to the world: this is the way to fight fear and hatred.

Discussion Questions

• The places named in Acts are chosen to reflect how the Spirit transcends social, ethnic, and political boundaries.  If you were given the the task of updating that list to reflect the same truth, what countries or groups would you put on the list?
• Think about how we usually communicate the gospel message to those outside the church.  What about the message has the potential to break down barriers?  What about the way we speak of our faith has the potential to create barriers between people?

Activity Suggestions

• If students know the song “We Are One in the Spirit,” sing it as a class. If not, read the words aloud: We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord. We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord, and we pray that all unity may one day be restored, and they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love, and they’ll know we are Christians by our love. How does the song say we express our unity? (by our love)
• What are some examples of loving actions that would set us apart from the world? Use real-life illustrations.
• What does the fire of the Holy Spirit mean for us? Think of the expression “on fire for the Lord.” How can we inspire each other to be “on fire for the Lord”? How can your “fire” help older people, who may have lost their passion for the Lord’s work? Encourage students to carry out what they have talked about.
• Individually, ask students to make a list of ways in which they can better show love for others. Ask them to share one item with the class. Turn the items into a prayer list and lead the students in prayer for these things.

Close by singing “We Are One in the Spirit” or a song of the students’ choice.

Closing Prayer

Dear Lord, thank you for the gift of your glorious Holy Spirit. Set our hearts on fire, so that we can do loving deeds and speak inspiring words. Make us one with your Son, in whose name we pray. Amen

Dave Dodson, Fort Walton Beach, FL

Warm-up Question

Have you ever found out something that you felt morally obligated to share with someone else, even though sharing would be awkward or perhaps a breach of trust and confidentiality.  How did you decide what was right in that circumstance?

Don’t WannaCry

I hope that the name “WannaCry” is unfamiliar to you.  That’s the name of a wicked computer virus currently ransacking computers across the globe.  WannaCry is ransomware.  That means that when it infects your computer, it locks up files that you’ve saved.  In order to get those files back, you’re forced to pay hundreds of dollars to the authors of the virus.  This money has to be paid in an untraceable digital currency called BitCoin, so catching the criminal coders of the virus is very hard.

Don’t worry too much.  If your computer is running an up to date version of Windows, then you’re safe from WannaCry.  However, it almost wasn’t that way.  The National Security Agency (NSA) discovered the flaw that made WannaCry possible earlier this year.  In April the data about that flaw was stolen from the NSA.  The hackers who created WannaCry got their hands on this data and were able to craft a virus that manipulated a problem with Windows.

There’s a discussion  about whether or not the NSA had a responsibility to tell Microsoft about the vulnerability it discovered.  It appears that when the NSA found out about the flaw, it didn’t say anything to Microsoft.  Instead, it chose to hold onto that data, hoping it could use it to write programs that would break into computers used by terrorist organizations and the like.  It’s possible that the NSA could have told Microsoft earlier about the problem, allowing it to fix the vulnerability earlier.  But did it have a moral obligation to do so? Or is the NSA’s mission to fight terrorism and American enemies more important?

Discussion Questions

• Do you believe that as a government agency, the NSA had a responsibility to share what it had learned with Microsoft?
• If the NSA’s goal is to protect people, how should it handle difficult decisions like this?

Seventh Sunday of Easter

Acts 1:6-14

1 Peter 4:12-14; 5:6-11

John 17:1-11

(Text links are to Oremus Bible Browser. Oremus Bible Browser is not affiliated with or supported by the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. You can find the calendar of readings for Year B at Lectionary Readings

For lectionary humor and insight, check the weekly comic Agnus Day.

Gospel Reflection

The Gospel of John is different from the other three Gospels, so much so that we call the other three by a unique name.  Together, Matthew, Mark, and Luke make up the Synoptic (from a Greek word meaning “see together”) Gospels.  The synoptics see Jesus in a similar way in the sense that they share many narrative elements and essentially the same chronology.  John, though, is different.  It just doesn’t fit the same mold as the other three.  There is no narrative of Jesus’ birth, for instance, and narrative parables are nowhere to be found.  The Jesus in John’s gospel  just doesn’t seem interested in telling stories.  Instead, there are extended narratives of Jesus’ encounters with others which point to who he is.  Jesus engages in deep conversations and speaks long soliloquies about divine knowledge and revelation.

To John, one of the most amazing things about Jesus’ story is that Jesus, though fully  man, possesses God’s nature and shares deep knowledge out of that divine identity.  As you probably noticed, this week’s passage is all about that sharing of knowledge.  Jesus specifically says about his disciples that “the words that you [the Father] gave to me I have given to them”.  Jesus is the divine revealer of truth and wisdom, and he has done more than teach the disciples.  He has opened their eyes to a truth they could never have reached on their own.

But this knowledge does not come alone.  It comes with a responsibility.  Jesus is explicitly clear about this in the passage following our reading this week.  By being the recipients of the same divine understanding that Jesus received from the Father, the disciples are inheriting Jesus’ mission and ministry.  They are not passive recipients of knowledge – they are recruits!

There is a price to the knowledge we gain about God, but it’s a wonderful price.  When we learn about God, we become a working part of God’s Kingdom, called to take an active role in crafting the Kingdom.  Our hands are called to do the work of God’s hands.  To John, this was obvious.  How could we know about God and not immediately feel the call to action?

Discussion Questions

• Have you ever felt the challenge of a verse or story in the Gospel? Have the words of your pastor or youth leader ever made you feel like you should act in a different or new way?
• What Gospel messages, if any, are hard for you to understand? For example, many people find some of the parables tough to work through.
• If you were confused about a Biblical text, how would you go about finding an answer to your questions?

Activity Suggestions

It’s graduation season!  Design a diploma for those who have “graduated” and gained wisdom through God’s word and teachings.  What degree would they hold? What would that diploma say?

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, you are the source of all true wisdom.  You guide us, console us, and teach us, and for this we are always thankful.  We praise you for the protection and peace that comes through our understanding of your Word.  Bless us to continually seek to grow and study your Word and your teachings.  In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.