{"id":5662,"date":"2016-01-26T08:38:50","date_gmt":"2016-01-26T13:38:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/?p=5662"},"modified":"2016-02-09T15:08:38","modified_gmt":"2016-02-09T20:08:38","slug":"january-31-2016","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/january-31-2016\/","title":{"rendered":"January 31, 2016,  The Pain of Rejection"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ellen Rothweiler, Des Moines, IA<\/p>\n<p><strong>Warm-up Question<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What do you do when you experience pain?<\/p>\n<p><strong>The Pain of Rejection<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5672\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-5672\" src=\"https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"shutterstock_345688478(1)\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781-250x167.jpg 250w, https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781-525x350.jpg 525w, https:\/\/blogs.elca.org\/faithlens\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2016\/01\/shutterstock_3456884781.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a> Rejection is something most of us have experienced in our life. But, did you know that the brain experiences rejection as a form of physical pain? So breaking your arm and being rejected by your peers can have similar responses in the brain and can feel equally painful!<br \/>\nStudies have shown that children and teens often experience real and lingering pain of rejection more keenly than others. These feelings of rejection can impact the child\u2019s overall health, both physically and socially. In a study done by Mark Leary, PhD, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University, 15 cases of school shooters were analyzed and he discovered all but two suffered from social rejection. His research published in the journal Aggressive Behavior says, \u201cOstracized people sometimes become aggressive and can turn to violence.\u201d<br \/>\nThis pain, like any physical pain, can often take time to recover from and cause other issues if not dealt with. It is important that we pay attention to our emotional health and be aware of the impact that rejection can have on others.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Discussion Questions<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Share a time when you have felt rejected.<\/li>\n<li>Share a time when you have rejected someone.<\/li>\n<li>Does the relationship you have with someone impact how you respond to being rejected by them? Explain.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Fourth Sunday After Epiphany<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/bible.oremus.org\/?ql=320308177\" target=\"_blank\">Jeremiah 1:4-10<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/bible.oremus.org\/?ql=320308237\" target=\"_blank\">1 Corinthians 13:1-13<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/bible.oremus.org\/?ql=320308283\" target=\"_blank\">Luke 4:21-30<\/a><br \/>\n(Text links are to Oremus Bible Browser. Oremus Bible Browser is not affiliated with or supported by the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. You can find the calendar of readings for Year B at Lectionary Readings<br \/>\nFor lectionary humor and insight, check the weekly comic Agnus Day.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Gospel Reflection<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In this passage from the Gospel of Luke, Jesus is preaching and teaching in his hometown. The crowd is full of people who have known him most of his life and see him as the son of Joseph. People\u2019s worth was often measured by their parentage in the ancient Hebrew culture so that was an important part of his identity. The people were proud of him, excited to hear what he had to say. That is, until he said something that was difficult for them to hear. Then, they ran him out of town!<br \/>\nIt is funny how precarious acceptance can be, especially with people who think they know all about you. You can feel like a well-liked part of a group and then you share an opinion that is not popular and you find yourself on the outside, rejected.<br \/>\nIt is important to take note of how Jesus responded to this rejection. In verse 30 it says \u201cbut he passed through the midst of them and went on his way.\u201d Jesus seems unaffected by this rejection. He predicted they would respond this way in verse 24 \u201c\u2026.no prophet is accepted in the prophet\u2019s hometown\u201d. Jesus, being both fully human and fully divine may have felt this rejection as we do, but he had things to do. He was on a mission. We too, have a calling in life that God has given us. Sometimes rejection can be that thing that pushes us forward but that does not mean it is not painful. Often the pain of rejection can bring a new sense of identity. Jesus was not only Joseph\u2019s son but the Son of God sent to redeem the world.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Discussion Questions<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Why do you think that Jesus said \u201cno prophet is accepted in the prophet\u2019s hometown\u201d?<\/li>\n<li>List three words that describe your identity.<\/li>\n<li>What groups\/people have an impact on your identity?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Activity Suggestion<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As a group share qualities that you see in each other. Have each group member share three things they have noticed about the character of the person to their right. This should be a time of affirmation not criticism. As the leader of the group, take time to reflect back the qualities you hear that you see influencing each participants identity.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Closing Prayer<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Lord we thank you for claiming us as your children in baptism. We know that this is our primary identity and that you will never reject us. Please be with us when we feel rejected by others and we pray for those who do not feel accepted by or connected to a community. Help us to welcome them and show them your love.<br \/>\nAmen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ellen Rothweiler, Des Moines, IA Warm-up Question What do you do when you experience pain? The Pain of Rejection Rejection is something most of us have experienced in our life. But, did you know that the brain experiences rejection as a form of physical pain? 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