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Survey says: You are happier if you have a sister

Posted on November 5, 2010 by Emily Hansen

I am very close to my sister.  Recently, she went on a mission trip to Zambia for two weeks.  An exciting adventure for her, but I thought to myself, “two weeks without speaking?!” We usually speak once a day. So it was a real change for me during those 14 days when she was traveling. 

While she was gone, whenever something amusing or interesting or annoying would happen, I would pick up my phone to dial her number and then realize … oops, she’s in Africa–her cell phone doesn’t work! There was a real void when we couldn’t talk.

I’m a happier person when I talk to my sister, and it turns out that I’m not alone. A study I read about recently in the New York Times shows that having a sister does make you happier.  Those sisterly conversations that I depend on are deep discussions, talking about our life, work, love, and family–sometimes serious, sometimes silly, but always important to me.

And isn’t that also why we are part of the women’s organization?  The friendship and support we receive from our fellow sisters in Christ is deeply connected to our wellbeing in mind, body, and spirit. These meaningful relationships are often at the core of who we are as women. 

So, do you think people who have sisters are happier?  Have you found that to be true in your own life?  Or do you have friends who are so close that they feel like sisters to you?

5 Responses to 'Survey says: You are happier if you have a sister'

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  1. Inez said,

    on November 5th, 2010 at 10:27 am

    I *so* agree! I love my lil’ sister loads!

  2. Marie said,

    on November 5th, 2010 at 2:27 pm

    My sister is my best friend! There’s such a history there, we often don’t even have to say but a few words, and we know the whole conversation. She’s such a comfort to me and makes me laugh even on my worst days.

  3. Cindy Pennie said,

    on November 6th, 2010 at 1:09 pm

    YES!! My sister always knows what I mean – few words needed.

  4. on November 6th, 2010 at 6:08 pm

    I am blessed to have a sister who is supportive of me and my family. She shows love for my children and grandchildren by opening her home to all of us for holidays-that can mean having 22 people, 3 dogs and 2 cats as overnight guests! We talk often, finish each other’s sentences when together, and married men who are gentle, kind and compassionate. We live an hour’s drive apart and yet don’t see each other as often as we would like. Thank you, Bonnie, for loving me just the way I am.

  5. Ginny said,

    on November 9th, 2010 at 9:58 am

    I am incredibly blessed by my two sisters – and by my brother. Our mother died when we were young and my sisters and I have mothered each other. Our bond has grown stronger over the years. I highly recommend Anna Quindlen’s book “Siblings”. It is out of print but can be found at used book stores online.

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